Sex in our life

Not far away we passed through sexual revolution. And what does it give us? Does it make us happier? On state level we have high divorce rate and low demographic. On people level

Sex does change the relationship and leads to partner boring of each other.

But why does it happen? Is sexual relations really such evil, but it can't be because it is human nature.

Looking on people and considering their relation we find that every time we meet the same rule: when sex come Love goes. But what we have to do to avoid this and keep love and family happiness. Firstly we should change our motives and look to love not just on thing we want to get and keep but thing (or may be not thing) we want to give.

World looks equitable and fair and all things we produce and give to world, it gives back but in new quality.

Example from my life:

Once I and my wife played host to my wife's sister family. They live in other city and visit us from time to time. That time was the first time they visit us, and we sincerely try to make the best condition for them. We showed them sites of our city. We cooked for them delicious food, etc. And we did all this unselfish; we didn't wait anything instead of it. As a result of our efforts they was happy with this visit. But when they leaved us we felt the real love it was very happiest nights.

Later I think a lot why they had left us the Love gave us such wonderful week. Nothing changed my wife and my house was the same but I felt myself very happy. And I started to understand that in life there is one only rule the rule of the balance. If you give something to somebody the life gives the same thing to you back. So if you will give love the life will give the love to you, if you will give anger the life will return it to you. If you will take something the life will take it from you.

Lets return to sex and try to consider it with this balance rule. Ask yourself why you have a sex. Some people have a sex to get pleasure so if you take something the life sooner or later take it from you.

Another people have a sex to give pleasure to his or her partner, so if you give somebody a pleasure the life gives the pleasure to you.

In the both cases it is not exactly we all want. In first case we became upset and unhappy in second bored. I might be mistaken but it looks that all of us really wants neither pleasure nor sex we all just want love, and in both cases while we are fighting for pleasure we loses the love. And then we don't want neither please no sex until love will visit us again.

For sure it is not easy to switch from sex to beyond the clouds love. It is like piece of cake. Every women knows that it has a lot calories and have an effect on hips but cake so sweet and delicious it is almost impossible to refuse it...